Let’s talk about lube! It’s an often overlooked element of the sex toy and adult pleasure range, but it’s an important one. It’s also something that a lot of us seem to be uncomfortable talking about, despite the fact that it can significantly improve how much pleasure we get in the bedroom.
So, let’s start with the basics. What is lube? In its most basic sense, it’s a product that reduces friction. The main reason you’d use it is to make penetration easier and therefore more pleasurable.
It often gets talked about in association with anal play and penetration, but it’s also great if you’re engaging in regular intercourse, or even just having a play with your favourite toys.
There are lots of different types of adult lubricants on the market. As You Beauty explained, they can be oil, water, petroleum or silicone based.
Which one is right for you will depend a little bit on your preferences, but may also be determined by whether you’re using condoms for sex. Generally, silicone or water-based lubes are recommended for use with latex condoms, because they’re less likely to cause them to break.
Although you can use oil or petroleum-based products with condoms, there is the chance that they can damage the latex, so it’s best to stay on the safe side. You might wonder why you wouldn’t just stick to silicone or water-based lube full stop? Well, that’s because it typically doesn’t last for as long as the other options.
Lube also isn’t just about improving pleasure for the person being penetrated. If you’re using a condom, slip some lube inside before you insert your penis - it makes the whole experience feel a little more sensuous.
Refinery29 recently offered some tips on this front though. Firstly, don’t go overboard and only use a small amount of lube inside the condom. Just a few drops is enough because it won’t evaporate in here.
It’s also best to add the lube inside the tip before you roll it onto you penis, then it will naturally work its way down. You can add lube to the outside of the condom once it’s on too.
We also think lube is a great addition to foreplay. It’s ideal when you’re using your fingers or hands as neither of these body parts naturally lubricate.
And, as the article for You Beauty notes, you can also use lube when you’re giving a blowjob.
Take some time to do some research into the different kinds of lube out there too. There are ones that provide a cooling effect, others that are marketed as stimulating and others that are flavoured. It can be a lot of fun to play with the different sensations, both on your own and with a partner.
The other thing to remember is that lube can also be a great addition when you’re going solo. Slip some on your favourite sex toy, or simply add a bit to your fingers when you’re masturbating. This really can enhance the whole experience.